Life is unpredictable. Adversity is inevitable. Excelerated Acceptance™ helps us face life’s challenges head-on, understanding that while we may not control everything that happens to us, we can control how we respond.
Finding Meaning in Adversity
The idea of acceptance is often misunderstood. Many think it means passively resigning ourselves to whatever happens in life—becoming mere spectators as events unfold around us. But true acceptance is not giving up. It is facing life with courage, resilience, and an open heart, while maintaining focus on growth, meaning, and personal evolution.
Imagine a young musician who, after years of practice and hard work, is involved in a tragic accident that leaves her unable to play the instrument she loves. For weeks, she’s devastated. Her dreams seem shattered. But in time, she begins to accept what has happened—not with defeat, but with a deep sense of awareness that her story is not over. In that acceptance, she finds new purpose, teaching others, writing music, and exploring other forms of creativity that she never would have discovered had she not faced this adversity.
That is the essence of Excelerated Acceptance™: looking beyond the pain and seeing potential, growth, even new beginnings. It’s acknowledging the reality of what’s happened, then asking, “What can I create from this? How can I grow?”
The Illusion of Total Control
Many metaphysicians suggest that we attract everything that happens in our lives. They assert that, good or bad, our thoughts and energy draw experiences to us, shaping our reality. On the surface, this sounds empowering—if the law of attraction works, then we should be able to attract success, happiness, and prosperity into our lives, right?
But there’s a deeper complexity here. What about the things that feel completely out of our control? How do we reconcile the randomness of life’s tragedies with this idea of attraction?
For me, it became personal when my youngest daughter, Claire, suffered two strokes—one at the age of 6 and another at 8. Her journey included many battles as she worked to overcome the disabilities the strokes left behind. During this difficult time, we met many other children facing equally debilitating conditions. How could anyone claim that these children “attracted” their suffering? To me, it felt both cruel and deeply flawed to say so.
There’s a fine line between the law of attraction and the law of consequences. While I agree that we can influence our reality through the power of our thoughts and actions, I cannot accept that we are the sole architects of everything that happens. Instead, I believe that while we may not control what happens, we have absolute control over our response to what happens—and that response, in turn, shapes our future.
The Law of the Farm: We Reap What We Sow
One truth I do accept fully is the law of the farm: we reap what we sow. Our habits, behaviors, and consistent efforts often determine the outcomes we experience. For example, if someone lives a life of poor choices—eating poorly, smoking, and avoiding exercise—it’s almost inevitable that negative consequences, such as a stroke or heart disease, will arise. But this, to me, feels less like the mysterious law of attraction and more like the straightforward law of cause and effect.
The actions we take (or fail to take) have consequences, and those consequences eventually catch up with us. The law of the farm teaches us that success, health, and happiness require consistent, daily effort. There’s no shortcut. There’s no bypass. You can’t plant weeds and expect roses. Excelerated Acceptance™ doesn’t just mean embracing the circumstances that life throws at you—it also means accepting the responsibility to actively shape your life with positive, intentional actions every day.
Excelerated Acceptance™ in Times of Adversity
When Claire was sick, I struggled to make sense of it all. What lesson could possibly be learned from such a heartbreaking experience? How could there be any “greater benefit” to this? But slowly, I began to see the outpouring of love from our community—our church family, in particular, who stepped in as our support system since our biological families lived miles away. This network of kindness became our anchor, and I realized that adversity often brings with it a deeper understanding of human connection, compassion, and unity.
Napoleon Hill famously said, “Every adversity has the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.” At first, it can be hard to see, but with time and reflection, the seeds begin to reveal themselves. Claire’s illness brought our family closer, deepened our relationships, and opened our eyes to the incredible strength and resilience within her and within all of us.
The Three Pillars of Excelerated Acceptance™
Through this journey, I’ve identified three key pillars that help cultivate Excelerated Acceptance™ in life. These pillars are powerful tools for anyone striving to navigate life’s challenges with grace, resilience, and purpose.
Thoughts Are Things
Your dominant thoughts shape your reality. The energy you put out into the world has a profound impact on what you attract. This doesn’t mean that every bad thought brings catastrophe or that thinking positively will automatically shield you from life’s challenges. But it does mean that focusing on solutions, possibilities, and growth—even in the face of adversity—can lead to outcomes you never dreamed were possible.
Ask yourself:
What are my dominant thoughts?
Do they align with the life I want to create?
How can I shift my mindset toward gratitude and growth, even when times are tough?
Action step:
Write down three dominant thoughts you’ve had recently. Are they supportive or self-defeating? What small changes can you make to focus on more constructive thoughts?
The Law of the Farm
Success in any area of life requires daily, consistent effort. There are no shortcuts. Just as you can’t expect to harvest a bountiful crop without planting, watering, and tending to the seeds, you can’t expect long-term success without putting in the work. This means accepting responsibility for your actions and sowing the seeds of excellence and diligence every day.
Ask yourself:
What seeds am I planting in my life right now?
Are my daily habits aligned with my long-term goals?
What can I start doing today that will lead to greater success tomorrow?
Action step:
Identify one area of your life where you’ve been inconsistent. Commit to a daily habit in this area for the next 30 days.
The Seed of Benefit in Every Adversity
Adversity, while painful, often carries the seed of something greater. It may not be apparent at first, but with time and reflection, the benefit often reveals itself. This doesn’t mean denying the difficulty of the situation. It means accepting it fully while seeking the growth or lesson it brings.
Ask yourself:
What is one challenge I’m facing right now?
What potential benefit or growth might this adversity hold for me?
How can I change my perspective and begin searching for the seed of benefit?
Action step:
Journal about a recent challenge you’ve faced. What positive lessons or opportunities came from it? How did it help you grow?
Embrace the Power of Excelerated Acceptance™
Life is unpredictable, and adversity is inevitable. But we are not powerless. Excelerated Acceptance™ helps us face life’s challenges head-on, understanding that while we cannot control everything that happens to us, we can control how we respond. Through the power of our thoughts, the law of the farm, and the seed of benefit, we can transform our most difficult moments into opportunities for growth, connection, and even joy.
Now that we’ve examined the principles of Excelerated Acceptance™, it’s time to put them into practice. Start small. Pick one pillar—managing your thoughts, committing to daily habits, or searching for the seed of benefit in adversity. Begin incorporating it into your daily life, and watch how your mindset shifts. Then, choose one area of your life where you’re ready to embrace acceptance. Write down three steps you can take today to begin practicing Excelerated Acceptance™. Keep it visible, and commit to taking action.
With Excelerated Acceptance™, you can transform even the toughest situations into opportunities for growth and meaning. Keep moving forward, keep planting seeds, and trust that the harvest will come. You won’t be able to control everything that happens, but you always have the power to choose your response. That choice, ultimately, is where your true strength lies. It’s another step on the path to embracing your Excelerated Life™!
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Excelerated Acceptance™ – identifying and accepting the things you are struggling with — is one practice for creating your Excelerated Life™, a life of flourishing and well-being, and a life of meaning, purpose, and service.
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Resources:
Hill, Napoleon. Think and Grow Rich. New York: Fawcett Books, 1987.
McWilliams, Peter. Life 101: Everything We Wish We Had Learned About Life In School – But Didn’t. Allen Park, MI: Mary Books / Prelude Press, 1994.
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