When faced with a scary or upsetting situation, you need the courage to accept it. When you find the courage to accept frightening or shocking events, you gain the opportunity to turn them into something positive.
In order to change and grow, you must learn more than you know right now and be more than you are right now. Acceptance is the first step. Acceptance helps us see the blessing in the lessons and the lesson in the blessings.
If you can’t walk away from a situation and you can’t change it, acceptance becomes the only viable option if you want to find any peace. There are things in life that we can’t change and we can’t walk away from. Acceptance gives us the clarity to understand the situation for what it is. Own your outcomes and choose acceptance over struggle.
One way to use the Character Strengths, including your top Signature Strengths, is to discover ways to combine them with the 18 practices of the Excelerated Life™. Here is a look at combining the practice of Excelerated Acceptance™ with each of the 24 character strengths.
Acceptance is the first step. True acceptance is hard. Changing and moving forward is harder. But the hardest thing of all is staying stuck where you are. You can pay the price of doing the hard work of accepting, then moving on. Or you can pay the higher price of doing nothing and stay stuck where you are. Either way, you’re going to pay. Why not choose the cost that leads to peace of mind and growth?
Sometimes, as the saying goes, “bad things happen to good people”. Sometimes bad things happen to bad people, too. And sometimes, good things happen to good and bad people. The reality is, things happen to people – good or bad are mostly judgment calls. Accepting where you are in life means you don’t argue with reality. It’s the first step to change what you can.
I am painfully shy. I am uncomfortable in crowds and especially in groups of people I don’t know very well. Some of you may be surprised by this revelation, although some of you will not be. It began about the time I reached junior high. I often got tongue-tied when called upon in class so I rarely spoke up. I avoided parties. And I didn’t have many friends. It was difficult to get to know others and for them to get to know me. In fact, some of the older guys at my school gave me a nickname: “Oddball”.
True acceptance brings perspective and power. Power to make a change. Or the power to face a situation you cannot change. And perspective to know which it is.
“What you resist, persists.” ~ Carl Jung
The First Step
A daughter has a stroke and her life changes forever. A loved one is diagnosed with cancer. A son is stricken with a debilitating disease and becomes disabled. A spouse has become disoriented by dementia and has to be placed in long-term care. A child commits suicide.
How does one cope with difficult life changes such as these? How do you begin to put the pieces of your life back together? One of the first steps is acceptance.
Denying pain, hurt or disappointment brings suffering. Accepting reality is a necessary step toward change, if change is possible. To choose acceptance is to acknowledge that some things cannot be changed and to learn to be at peace about that.
A Missed Opportunity
On most Wednesdays around 11:00 AM, you can find my wife, Rebecca, and me doing our weekly grocery shopping at our local store. (Taking advantage of the senior discount, of course.) However, recently we had an unusual experience.
When we arrived at our usual entrance to the store’s parking area, we found that it was blocked by a police car. We drove towards the next entrance but we observed that all the entrances to the parking area were blocked by police.
We followed a couple of cars toward the back of the store and discovered that a back entrance was open and unguarded. So all three cars went in that way.